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Friday, April 04, 2008

Book #13: In Chancery

I've returned home to finish Part 2 of The Forsyte Saga, "In Chancery." The theme of this second book is the nature of marriage as a form of ownership. Galsworthy explores Soames Forsyte's continuing desire to possess the wife from whom he has been estranged for many, many years. The book covers the turn of the century, from 19th to 20th, and the shift in society's values. Soames considers divorce to be the end of his public career as a lawyer and makes plans accordingly. We are so far away from that, and yet don't we all suffer from a desire to possess those we love? You have to be pretty darn conscious not to do it.
I'm on to the next "interlude" and will begin the final volume soon. I must say, the book continues to be, as we say in Vacationland, wicked heavy, and that is impacting the speed with which I read.

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Book #12

At Auntie Knickers' suggestion:

I am in the midst of The Forsyte Saga, but since it was originally published as three books plus various short intervening pieces, I'll give myself a little extra credit. I have finished the first book, The Man of Property, as well as the following interlude, Indian Summer of a Forsyte. This is a re-read, as I read The Man of Property many, many years ago (1982 or so) and then read this volume about five years ago around the time the series appeared on Masterpiece Theatre.

I don't want this to turn into a review of the TV show or the long-ago movie, but let me just say that although Gina McKee is a wonderful actress, she is no Irene Heron Forsyte Forsyte. And, no, it's not just because I first saw Greer Garson play the part.

John Galsworthy wrote the books, and I love his subtle humor and social commentary. But at its core, the book is deadly serious. Soames views Irene as property, *his* property, and it's scary to think that even today, some men think of their wives/girlfriends as property. I point you to this story at Shakesville for a view on contemporary partner-as-property dynamics.

I'm afraid there is no time to write more, as I must finish packing. I have been packing all day, first to leave my office at Main Street Church (my boxes are now safely in my new office, where I will unpack them next week), and then to come home and pack for my journey to Nawlins tomorrow, where I will head out on the Big Event cruise with 20 other RevGalBlogPals on Thursday. I have a book packed, but it's considerably lighter than the gigantic Forsyte Saga.

Back early next week!

Monday, March 24, 2008

Books #10 and #11

These have to be the two most unrelated books ever, but since I had no book-blogging time, I'll catch up today.

Book #10 was by Judi Hollis (also author of "Fat is a Family Affair"), called Hot and Heavy: Finding Your Soul Through Food and Sex. Um, yeah. The book has been on my self since the late 90's, when it was first published, and I know now why I didn't finish reading it then; it's poorly written. Even a self-help book can be interesting to read, can't it?

Her premises are essentially these:

  • People who are heavy enjoy sensual pleasures.
  • Eating mindfully (the technique she describes is called "Divine Dine") will change your relationship with food.
  • If you really wake up, your capacity for enjoyment will be immeasurably high, so high you won't be able to settle for less than extraordinary sex.
  • And why should you?

Well, there might be any number of reasons, as I'm sure you can imagine. Maybe the world would be a better place if all women sat and ate slowly (that's the same advice being given on the new TLC show "I Can Make You Thin," by the way), as well as having loving partners who provided them with mind-blowing attentions. I have a feeling we'll never know. My concerns about the book where sex is concerned are two (the mindful eating portion makes good sense). First, it is an exclusively hetero book, which she admits right up front. That just seems so 70's!! Second, it's hard for me to understand how a book about intimate relationships published in the late 90's could be so unconcerned about sexually transmitted diseases and the general peril of sex for the sake of sex. If that makes me a prude, well, we're using the wrong measure, I think. When you've set yourself up in an advice-giving capacity to the masses, and sex is one major portion of the program, it's unconscionable to be reverting to the pre-AIDS world view.

Enough said?

Book #11 was Bread and Wine: Readings for Lent and Easter, a collection of essays by writers from many eras. I must admit to nominating this one for RevGalBlogPals' monthly book discussion, and I am the host of today's discussion over there. It's a mixed bag. The beginning section is filled with what I think of as bad Atonement theology, but because I had the hosting duties ahead of me, I pressed on toward the goal of finishing the book instead of flinging it aside. There were some essays I found thought-provoking or moving, and I've written about them over at RevGals.

Meanwhile, Book #12, The Forsyte Saga...

Well, it weighs a lot, so I don't think I'll be taking it on the cruise later this week. I wish I had the individual novels in a more convenient size, but that was not to be. I'll write about it in toto when I've finished.

If you have any suggestions for a good cruise novel, let me know in the comments! I'll have time to run over to Borders tomorrow.

Monday, March 03, 2008

Books #8 and #9

Book #8  ~~ Mansfield Park, by Jane Austen ~~ While reading an old copy of Persuasion, I came to the sad conclusion that I needed to begin upgrading, or rather upsizing, my Jane Austen collection. The Penguin paperbacks I bought in 1982 are not only browning and crumbling; the print is far too small for me to read comfortably. I want to sing the praises of the Vintage paperback editions, which are not outrageously expensive and have the kindest typeset of the various paperback versions of Austen available at the Borders nearby. I've linked to them in the sidebar.

In the comments here on Persuasion, Kathryn made a reference to Mansfield Park's retiring heroine, Fanny Price, and I realized it had been many years since I read the book. I know it was in this house, but I believe it may have been as long ago as the summer of 1998, when I first lived here. I remember reading it in my bedroom here; funny how books have their sense memories, too. I remember feeling it was a very important story for me, and that I loved Fanny, so Kathryn's characterization of Fanny as a "drip" surprised me. Did I remember her that way? The only Fanny in my shorter-term consciousness was the movie Fanny, who was far too confident and I think intended to remind us of Miss Austen herself. More recently I've read somewhere that Miss Austen claimed to be herself more like the far less drippy Mary Crawford. With all this in mind, I took up my fresh copy of Mansfield Park (the longest Austen novel) and began.

Fanny, I discovered, is exactly what my mother tried to raise me to be: a quiet young lady who takes her lead, morally and intellectually, from the influential gentleman in her life.

AAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well, there you have it. I am a changed person. I no longer identify with Fanny. I'm sorry she didn't get to enjoy that bad boy Henry Crawford and break out a bit. But that sort of bodice-ripping is for film adaptations, not Miss Austen herself.

(In defense of the book, the section around her uncle's return to discover the family putting on a play is fantastic.)

Book #9 ~~ The Writer's Diet: Writing Yourself Right-Size, by Julia Cameron ~~ Let me start by admitting that I have not read "The Artist's Way," Cameron's popular book about restoring or discovering creativity. It came into use while I was finishing seminary, and although it was offered as a class at Large Church and then later by a group affiliated with Small Church, I could never fit it into my schedule. Some of the terms in that book have entered the general consciousness, at least of pastors and writers, so I was familiar with the concept of "Morning Pages" and "Artist's Dates."

In a general way, I like her idea. It is her experience that people taking her classes have lost weight while doing the writing process of Morning Pages, and she has written a book about all sorts of ways to use a journal to support weight loss by becoming honest with yourself about what you are eating and why.

I'm finding interesting areas of resistance to what she has written, some of which are no doubt the kind of resistance you feel when you need to actually work on something, but my major concerns are two.

  • First, doing the kind of depth work she is talking about, especially where there has been trauma involved, requires therapeutic assistance in almost every case. It is late in the book before she raises the need for therapy alongside writing yourself right-sized.
  • Second, although she claims her ideas work with any kind of food plan, there is a definite difference between abstinence-based plans such as OA and moderation-based plans such as Weight Watchers. Her book is definitely more abstinence-oriented. There's nothing wrong with that in a general way, but I'm not sure she's as universal as she might like to think she is.

Reading the book has me writing in a paper journal again. The Princess saw me doing it and asked what I was writing about? I explained, and then I said, "It's weird to be writing something just for myself again." I write sermons and blog posts and newspaper columns, and the whole point of those is to be in touch with others. To write just for me is almost uncomfortably intimate and very interesting. It also hurts, aggravating my old DeQuervain's tendon synovitis. It may be that I can't do what I once did, scratching on paper with pencil, and may need to switch to a more ergonomic pen. That makes me a bit sad.

What are you reading?

Friday, February 08, 2008

Book # 7: Persuasion

It's true. I am devoted to Miss Austen, so much so that it is only thanks to my former husband's dislike of the name that I do not have a daughter named Jane. Her books are for me an alternate universe of friends and locations I enjoy visiting over and over again. In 2007, I re-read "Pride and Prejudice" and "Emma." This year I am beginning with "Persuasion," beloved as all her books are, in particular for its older heroine, Anne Elliot.

Have you read this one? Do you love it? And what of the film version with Ciaran Hinds and Amanda Root? It's about as delightful an adaptation of Austen as I have ever seen. Hinds does tend toward those broody Mr. Rochester silences (he has played that character, too), and Sam West is a great Mr. Elliot. But it's Amanda Root I love the most, so much expression and sensitivity. She really feels like Anne to me in a way many actresses do not feel right as Austen's heroines.

Your thoughts welcome.

Monday, January 28, 2008

Book #6: Listening for God

Last night I finished re-reading "Listening for God: A Minister's Journey Through Silence and Doubt," by Renita J. Weems. I first read it about five years ago, early in my ministry, at a point when I seriously wondered what God had been thinking of, or if I had completely misheard what I was supposed to be doing with my life. When you get to your first job and within three weeks the people are trying to talk you out of a third of your salary and benefits, it's hard not to have these kinds of questions! Weems' book helped then, and it was good to read it from a different vantage point. For a larger discussion, surf over to RevGalBlogPals, where her book is the topic of this month's RevGalBookPals entry.

Thursday, January 24, 2008

Book #5: Less Than Angels

I'm continuing my tour of Barbara Pym favorites and really enjoyed "Less Than Angels," which is currently out of print.
Next on my list, a quick spin through the RevGalBlogPals discussion book for Monday, "Listening for God" by Renita Weems. I read this a few years ago and have a great appreciation for it. More when I've finished.

Monday, January 21, 2008

Book #4: Thirst

Thirst, a book of poems by Mary Oliver, has been in and out of my sidebar for over a year now. I've been dipping into it since the fall of 2006, when I briefly owned it in hardcover before giving it to a friend. Although it was the subject of a book discussion at RevGalBlogPals, I have to admit that yesterday was the day I finally read all the poems instead of dipping into the book here and there.

reverendmother mentioned in her review of the book that there are a few themes in Oliver's poems that repeat over the years, and that is very true. I also agree that the masculine pronouns Oliver uses for God at times are a bit jarring.

But my overall feeling after reading the whole range of the poems is joyfulness. There are more pages turned down in the book than I can quote from here, and those are just from the poems I read for the first time yesterday.I am happy that Mary Oliver, who has expanded my sense of the Divine through her poetry about nature, is getting some meaning from the sacramental relationship that means so much to me. I feel like we've met on both our home courts now.



Sunday, January 20, 2008

Book #3: How Can We Keep From Singing

My son, Snowman, gave me a book for Christmas, How Can We Keep From Singing: Music and the Passionate Life, and it has been wonderful. Joan Oliver Goldsmith is a freelance writer and an enthusiastic amateur singer, one who is well-trained and thoughtful about music and her own life.

I want to share something that touched me from the final chapter, in which she writes about learning a piece of music that stretches all her limits:

Life's sacred assignments constitute a customized curriculum--structured and designed for each individual...
I want to know my course assignment now. The simple act of naming it forces me to notice what's happening in my life. It also gives me a learner's perspective: Of course I'm not good at this yet--that's why it's been assigned to me.
I have friends who would say the spiritual curriculum is the will of an intentional, personal God. I have friends who would say you create the curriculum with your own energy. I'm not driven to assign causality. But I do believe the evidence of my eyes and my years. The spiritual curriculum is real.

Since I'm in a place just like that, I appreciated the way she put it.

Saturday, January 12, 2008

An Unsuitable Attachment: More Pym, please

I'm continuing my re-read of Barbara Pym's novels and just finished "An Unsuitable Attachment." I really enjoyed it, particularly her use of multiple perspectives. As a person who lives in a happy, but in what might be to some people's minds "unsuitable," marriage, I loved her exploration of the theme. What attracts us? What can we simply not resist? And what can we learn from letting ourselves experience our feelings?

I'm loving my journey back through Pym's books, but I have a couple of others to read before I continue with hers.

Monday, January 07, 2008

No Fond Return of Love: 2008 Book Challenge #1

One of my daughter's teachers told her that all real readers are RE-readers, and as if to prove that point, my first book of 2008 is indeed a re-read, a wonderful novel by the fabulous Barbara Pym, No Fond Return of Love.

I first read this book more than twenty years ago. My grandmother discovered Barbara Pym (1913-1980) in her last years and passed a few paperbacks along to my mother and me. Then I went to work in a bookstore and began collecting her books in earnest. A winner of the Booker Prize, Barbara Pym was often compared to Jane Austen for her portrayal of British life from the post-WWII era on into the 1960's. No Fond Return of Love, published in 1961 (the year I was born) tells the story of a woman in her early 30's who has a love of researching other people's lives. The book is amusing and literate and even contains a reference to Miss Austen (and one of my favorite books, at that). I also recently re-read (in late 2007) both Jane and Prudence and Excellent Women (now published in the Penguin Classics series).

I have enjoyed these books as a young woman, a 30ish stay-at-home mom and now I am loving them again at mid-life. (And I do believe they have survived bubble baths in three different decades!) Just wish the print in the paperbacks didn't keep shrinking...

Pym understood the absurdity of love and expressed it with a wry gentleness and great intelligence. If you don't know her books, I hope you'll try one!

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